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Why Women Stay In An Abusive Dating Relationship
By: Francis K. Githinji
Life is short just live it to the fullest. Even when you are dating a person, you are in that relationship because you love that person and it makes you happy to be in love. But when your point of affection, your source of happiness turns into a tormentor, you have every reason to be very worried. When did things start changing for the worse? What really went wrong? And why for heavens sake should you stick to an abusive relationship? Why would you allow a person to trash and trample upon your very basic rights? An abusive dating relationship is unhealthy. It is a relationship sitting on a powder keg. It can go off any time. It is a time bomb waiting to explode unless very urgent measures are taken to arrest the situation before it goes out of hand.
An abusive dating relationship shows there are disparities between the couple which can either be bridged or the divide is too wide to fill. Understanding the root cause of the problem is important in order to comprehend this weighty issue. A dating relationship is a two way traffic. Partners compliment each other. One partner's needs are met and fulfilled in the other. It is so mutual and symbiotic you feel bereaved when your mate is not there. What i am trying to say here is that compatibility is the key word. It is what glues two people together. An abusive dating relationship is an indicator of incompatibility. What would drive you to abuse a person you "love". If your partner is abusing you, try and see where you went wrong. Also evaluate your partner, how he relates with you, his background. Maybe he was brought up in an abusive relationship or he was abused in his childhood.
Sometimes a woman stay in an abusive dating relationship for the sake of their children. What would happen if she calls it quit? She becomes hesitant fearing the repercussions her children will face in case of a separation. But what would bridge this gap? Can this couple be reconciled and be able to live again harmoniously and in love? It depends with the two parties concerned. Their is no issue however contentious that cannot be discussed and solved. However if the feelings of attraction, love and affection are no longer there, then the relationship is irreparable. You cannot change the way a person feels towards something. Quit and look for a new beginning.
Your partner could be trying to pass a message to you. He could be showing you a red light. That it is high time you went separate ways, only that you don't seem to pick the signal. He doesn't want to tell you in black and white that go and never turn back. The spark that kept the fire burning is no longer there hence there is no reason to stick together. When in an abusive dating relationship, it is wise to always have an exit avenue. Be prepared psychologically that you can quit and go your separate way. If your partner is abusing you he also does not respect you. You mean nothing to him. Do not stick there, move on. It's your life. You might never know what you have been missing until you quit that relationship. |